Before I had Bennett I always felt like I had no idea how to be a good friend to my girlfriends with a new born. All I knew was they had this incredible new responsibility and were up every hour of the day. I always felt like I would wake the baby up if I called and I didn't want to disturb them. I'm not too great of a cook, so I never knew what to make for them and bring over. And that just debilitated me more...so yeah I just sucked at being a friend to all of my new mommy friends.
But now that I've been through it. I'd love to ask for forgiveness from all my mommy friends for being a bad friend and now I get how truly important you all are and how much y'all needed me. And I wish I could have been there. So for those of you that are wondering what your new mommy friends need, here's my advice to you.
If you can meet them in the hospital - go. They will be there at a minimum of 3 nights and 3 days. So if you can't make it no worries, just call, call again, text, and then keep texting. Offer to bring food, or cook food, and dessert doesn't hurt either. Seriously! I don't quite know how to explain how insane having a new born is, but the first 5 weeks are all about survival and your friends feel like zombies. The babies eat about every two hours, so that means your friends are up feeding their babies EVERY TWO HOURS around the clock. When they're feeding it can take about 20 - 50 minutes to feed, then change the diaper, and then put the baby back down to sleep, AND THEN your friend goes back to sleep. And then they do it over and over and over again. So, call, call again, text, and text again, because they probably don't know what time or even day it is and they do want to hear from you.
And if you feel inclined to bring a present, a baby blanket is literally the last thing a new mama needs. A swaddle blanket yes, but the lush soft ones, nope. She's been given plenty so bring her stuff like dry shampoo, a yummy candle, snacks, and a sleep sack for the baby. At least that is what I loved and really enjoyed. Just like this super cozy sweater dress with over the knee boots. It's the perfect look for a new mama to feel equal parts put together and up to date.